Saturday, December 03, 2005
Anger Management
Once Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his close friend, Abu Bakr, were sitting. A man came up and started to severely insult Abu Bakr and hurl unjust accusations.
As long as Abu Bakr kept quiet, the Prophet (pbuh) kept smiling. But after a while, Abu Bakr couldn't take the insults anymore and started to defend himself against the wrongful claims. No sooner had he started to do that, the Prophet (pbuh) got up and left.
Later on, when Abu Bakr saw the Prophet (pbuh), he asked the Prophet (pbuh) as to his reasons for leaving when Abu Bakr had every right to defend himself.
The Prophet (pbuh) replied, "Abu Bakr, as long as you were quiet, the angels were defending you but as soon as you start to defend for yourself, the angels left and the devil walked in. And I don't stay in the same place as the devil."
[paraphrasing the incident]
The point is to take the higher road, ESPECIALLY if you know you're correct. Therefore it's not Abu Bakr you end up feeling sorry for but rather the ignorant person who keeps on barking like a dog.
I have to seriously start making a conscientious effort to stay away from arguements of all types, especially the ones that lead no where. This act is probably the hardest for most people to implement, let alone a 'weak' person life myself.
"The powerful man is not a person who is a wrestler but the one who can control his anger."
[once again, paraphrasing the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him)]
As long as Abu Bakr kept quiet, the Prophet (pbuh) kept smiling. But after a while, Abu Bakr couldn't take the insults anymore and started to defend himself against the wrongful claims. No sooner had he started to do that, the Prophet (pbuh) got up and left.
Later on, when Abu Bakr saw the Prophet (pbuh), he asked the Prophet (pbuh) as to his reasons for leaving when Abu Bakr had every right to defend himself.
The Prophet (pbuh) replied, "Abu Bakr, as long as you were quiet, the angels were defending you but as soon as you start to defend for yourself, the angels left and the devil walked in. And I don't stay in the same place as the devil."
[paraphrasing the incident]
The point is to take the higher road, ESPECIALLY if you know you're correct. Therefore it's not Abu Bakr you end up feeling sorry for but rather the ignorant person who keeps on barking like a dog.
I have to seriously start making a conscientious effort to stay away from arguements of all types, especially the ones that lead no where. This act is probably the hardest for most people to implement, let alone a 'weak' person life myself.
"The powerful man is not a person who is a wrestler but the one who can control his anger."
[once again, paraphrasing the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him)]
Faraz Ahmed 2:59 p.m.